Why does my dog protect my boyfriend from me?

One major reason why your dog is being protective of your boyfriend against others is resource guarding. They could also be aggressive towards you because of your cortisol levels, which canines are known to detect well. Dogs are also more protective of those they see as the main provider.

What is resource guarding?

According to research, resource guarding is a behavior exhibited by dogs when trying to retain control of an object they deem important.

This can be displayed through several actions, such as:

• Growling.
• Avoidance.
• Baring of teeth.
• Aggressive barking.

These actions are usually displayed by dogs towards food. However, they can also “guard” a certain person.

There are tons of reasons why dogs do this. We’ll talk about a few of the most common ones below.

You are stressed

Yes, you read that right.

Your stress levels can severely affect how a dog reacts when you’re around.

Research shows that when dog owners have high cortisol levels, their dogs tend to move a lot, e.g. standing up when they’re around.

Unlike when a dog owner is relaxed, dogs tend to stay put beside them. 

If you are constantly in a stressful situation and are bringing that energy into your home when you meet your dog, they tend to be avoidant towards you and might see you as a threat.

Since they see your boyfriend as someone they care for, they might “protect” them from someone with high cortisol levels.

Your boyfriend is more present

Dogs tend to be loyal to more present individuals who provide more for them.

“In what ways does my dog see my boyfriend as more of a provider?”

Giving your dog treats and other food items isn’t the end of caring for your pup. A big part of building relationships with dogs is being there mentally for them.

Playing games, going on long walks, and even cuddling with them can help form a better relationship.

Even if your furry friend lives under your roof, they still get more attached to the person and more attentive towards them.

What to do if my dog is too protective of my boyfriend?

With the right training, you can change your dog’s behavior and be less aggressive.

You can start by having your boyfriend show your dog you can be trusted.

Your partner can do this by:

• Talking gently to you.
• Giving your dog treats and letting you hold it.
• Play with your dog and include you in the games.

You and your partner can do these simple things to help change your dog’s behavior and start associating you with positive things such as food and toys.